Nobody comes to the discussion on trust empty handed. We all have strong feelings about it. We know how it feels when trust is misused, betrayed, or withheld. Our perspectives are real and have been informed by a lifetime of experiences, pain and broken relationships. Sometimes these conclusions are helpful and sometimes they hold us … Read More
Blame is the game & everyone is playing
Where have all of the responsible people gone? We are living in a society where blame and finger pointing have overtaken ownership and accountability. Not a day goes by where we don’t see evidence of someone blaming someone else for the problems in their life. Personal ownership is an old fashioned value and one that … Read More
Don’t be so damned offended – 5 ways to live a life less offended
Yep, I said it. We live in the most offended society to ever grace the planet. Political correctness has overtaken the day and in my (limited) research, I have found about 5 people that are actually in favor of political correctness. Everyone else hates it, yet they regularly participate in it. We are careful what … Read More
Why am I talking??
I recently noticed the same thing happening in three different settings: at a nice restaurant last weekend with friends, at Q’doba for lunch by myself yesterday, and at a coffee shop with a friend…one person at a table being held hostage by another motor mouth across the table.
How I know nobody is listening to you and 5 ways to ensure that they will
Every leader seeks to be an effective communicator – but so few really are. We don’t lack for communication in our day and age. If anything, all of our communication is so deafening we can’t actually hear anything.
Are you playing to win or playing not to lose? – The best offense is a great offense
You’ve heard it before “Defense wins championships.” Well, technically this isn’t true. I recently read an article about a classic state basketball championship from the 1940s. The final score was 2-0. The team that won this championship didn’t have the best defense, they had the best offense.
The Power of a Good Question – The Greatest Question Ever
Years ago I learned a simple lesson while watching a teaching by Bobb Biehl, an Executive Mentor. He said if you ask no questions, you get no answers. If you ask simple questions you will get simple answers. If you ask powerful questions you will get powerful answers. Super simple—yet super profound.
The Role of Humility in Leadership – 3 ways to shape humility
Can you learn humility? This is a question that comes up frequently, and my quick answer is not easily. Humility is not necessarily a character trait to be learned or a skill set to be developed. You have it or you don’t. The longer answer is that we can grow in our existing humility, and … Read More
Drink Before You’re Thirsty – How to prepare for what’s next
Several months ago I was talking with a young speaker about how to improve his craft. He is a gifted story teller, an amazing thinker, and he draws his audience to conclusions that help reframe their way of thinking. After listening to him speak several times he asked me for some advice: “How can I … Read More
The Gift of Feedback – and why you struggle receiving it
Feedback is a gift, and it isn’t always friendly. I have talked with some leaders recently who are getting some tough feedback from their teams. They don’t necessarily like what they are hearing, but they know that they need to hear it so they can grow and improve. We all know we’re supposed to say … Read More