You are what you eat and you are who you surround yourself with. I have a good friend who was a pastor to 20 somethings. From time to time he would get a call from someone who was in a really bad situation. They were either in jail or facing some serious punishment. When he … Read More
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Stop talking about Generations! (part 2) 10 ways to make generations in the workplace irrelevant
In my post from last week, I got a little crabby about all of the talk about generations. I won’t deny that the issue of multiple generations in the workplace is causing challenges (and opportunities). I certainly won’t disagree that we need to pay attention to the distinct needs of each generation and that failing … Read More
Stop talking about Generations! It’s not about generations, it’s about people
I recently spoke at the largest gathering of Human Resource professionals in the world. There were over 15,000 people from 80+ countries. Speakers from Marcus Buckingham and Coach Mike Krzyzewski (Coach K – from Duke) to current HR practitioners and consultants and authors like me were there. It’s a gathering of minds and one of … Read More
Eyes Wide Open Trust – The power of effective boundaries
Trust must be given, not earned, but I’m not advocating blind trust. My wife and I have four boys: Christian, Preston, Jackson, and Lincoln. When they were little, the street in front of our house was completely off-limits. The risk was too great. But if they were still afraid to cross the street as thirteen-year-olds, … Read More
Play the Odds – 5 strategies for overcoming your fear of trust
Let’s address this difficult situation of people that will likely take advantage of you if you are willing to give trust. So let’s play the odds. Even though trust is not safe it can still be a wise investment. The question is, do the rewards outweigh the risks?
Quit Your Job…You Are Not the Trust Ref
If trust isn’t something that is earned (see past post here), then how do we approach relationships so we don’t get hurt, abused, or simply taken advantage of? This is the question that most often comes with the exposure of the big lie. Also, you may be thinking of 3 or 30 people that you … Read More
The BIG lie about TRUST – 5 reasons why trust is not earned
Nobody comes to the discussion on trust empty handed. We all have strong feelings about it. We know how it feels when trust is misused, betrayed, or withheld. Our perspectives are real and have been informed by a lifetime of experiences, pain and broken relationships. Sometimes these conclusions are helpful and sometimes they hold us … Read More
Blame is the game & everyone is playing
Where have all of the responsible people gone? We are living in a society where blame and finger pointing have overtaken ownership and accountability. Not a day goes by where we don’t see evidence of someone blaming someone else for the problems in their life. Personal ownership is an old fashioned value and one that … Read More
Don’t be so damned offended – 5 ways to live a life less offended
Yep, I said it. We live in the most offended society to ever grace the planet. Political correctness has overtaken the day and in my (limited) research, I have found about 5 people that are actually in favor of political correctness. Everyone else hates it, yet they regularly participate in it. We are careful what … Read More
Why am I talking??
I recently noticed the same thing happening in three different settings: at a nice restaurant last weekend with friends, at Q’doba for lunch by myself yesterday, and at a coffee shop with a friend…one person at a table being held hostage by another motor mouth across the table.