Trust must be given, not earned, but I’m not advocating blind trust. My wife and I have four boys: Christian, Preston, Jackson, and Lincoln. When they were little, the street in front of our house was completely off-limits. The risk was too great. But if they were still afraid to cross the street as thirteen-year-olds, … Read More
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Play the Odds – 5 strategies for overcoming your fear of trust
Let’s address this difficult situation of people that will likely take advantage of you if you are willing to give trust. So let’s play the odds. Even though trust is not safe it can still be a wise investment. The question is, do the rewards outweigh the risks?
Quit Your Job…You Are Not the Trust Ref
If trust isn’t something that is earned (see past post here), then how do we approach relationships so we don’t get hurt, abused, or simply taken advantage of? This is the question that most often comes with the exposure of the big lie. Also, you may be thinking of 3 or 30 people that you … Read More
The BIG lie about TRUST – 5 reasons why trust is not earned
Nobody comes to the discussion on trust empty handed. We all have strong feelings about it. We know how it feels when trust is misused, betrayed, or withheld. Our perspectives are real and have been informed by a lifetime of experiences, pain and broken relationships. Sometimes these conclusions are helpful and sometimes they hold us … Read More
Blame is the game & everyone is playing
Where have all of the responsible people gone? We are living in a society where blame and finger pointing have overtaken ownership and accountability. Not a day goes by where we don’t see evidence of someone blaming someone else for the problems in their life. Personal ownership is an old fashioned value and one that … Read More
Don’t be so damned offended – 5 ways to live a life less offended
Yep, I said it. We live in the most offended society to ever grace the planet. Political correctness has overtaken the day and in my (limited) research, I have found about 5 people that are actually in favor of political correctness. Everyone else hates it, yet they regularly participate in it. We are careful what … Read More
Why am I talking??
I recently noticed the same thing happening in three different settings: at a nice restaurant last weekend with friends, at Q’doba for lunch by myself yesterday, and at a coffee shop with a friend…one person at a table being held hostage by another motor mouth across the table.
How I know nobody is listening to you and 5 ways to ensure that they will
Every leader seeks to be an effective communicator – but so few really are. We don’t lack for communication in our day and age. If anything, all of our communication is so deafening we can’t actually hear anything.
Are you playing to win or playing not to lose? – The best offense is a great offense
You’ve heard it before “Defense wins championships.” Well, technically this isn’t true. I recently read an article about a classic state basketball championship from the 1940s. The final score was 2-0. The team that won this championship didn’t have the best defense, they had the best offense.
The Power of a Good Question – The Greatest Question Ever
Years ago I learned a simple lesson while watching a teaching by Bobb Biehl, an Executive Mentor. He said if you ask no questions, you get no answers. If you ask simple questions you will get simple answers. If you ask powerful questions you will get powerful answers. Super simple—yet super profound.