How are you doing? Oh, you’re super busy? Don’t have time to chat, or for your kids, or for a vacation? I get it. I’m busy, too.
In fact, I’ve yet to meet the participant in one of our programs that says, “Hey, my boss is asking me to do less work, and he’s giving me more resources with which to do it!” The reality is that work is hard today, there’s lots to do, and while we’ve got 18 pounds of stuff to put into a 10 pound bag, all 18 pounds look like “A1″ priority work.
That being said, most of us are busy being busy with the stuff that doesn’t need to go in our bag. We’re constantly getting harassed by coworkers, checking our smartphone, responding to email, answering the phone, reading the latest industry article, and posting about how busy we are on Facebook and Twitter and LinkedIn…and we seem proud of it, as if being the busiest person is some sort of competition or reason for martyrdom.
We need to stop.
“I’m so busy,” is a horrible answer. Stop it. You don’t win an award for being busy. It’s a non-answer. It’s a lazy answer. It’s the equivalent of “I’m fine.” Instead, start answering with how you’re creating value, or for what you are grateful, or how life is grand or not grand. Answer with meaning. And choose to be busy with meaning.
And this doesn’t mean we need to stop checking Facebook, or that we should ignore every email. But let’s stop being driven by these things. Let’s do them with purpose and intent. Let’s ask ourselves on the front end, “What’s the value?” and then go create that value.
Just doing and then whining about it is lazy. It requires no thought or effort. It’s a way to do enough to look and sound important without making tough choices about what really is of worth. It’s the equivalent of saying, “I surrender!” to life.
Instead, we need to use our intelligence to decide what’s important, what matters, how we can make impact. We need to say no to the things that don’t bring value to our lives. We must resist the call of the urgent and seek instead to do the important.
Finally, let’s have gratitude for the things that should keep us busy – having family, friends, work, play, and other obligations is something to be thankful for. Let’s remember that we always have a choice about how we spend our time.
Let’s never answer, “How are you doing?” with “Oh, I’m so busy,” ever again. I’ll take the pledge with you.
So, how am I doing? I’m great. I’m on a plane headed home to my family and friends. I just had a challenging week doing great work with great people. Life is good. See you next time.
Twelve years ago today terrorists attacked the U.S., killing thousands at the World Trade Center, the Pentagon and in Pennsylvania. May we never forget those who lost their lives.
What if every person in life came with an instruction manual? That would be a dream – right? Imagine how much healthier your relationships would be. We can’t offer you a manual but what we can tell you is that our team has been using a powerful tool called Strength Deployment Inventory, also known as SDI, that helps you understand what makes people tick both when things are going well and when they are in conflict.
This last week our team spent a week with some of the top psychologist and behavioral experts in the nation, as they presented their research based on this powerful tool. Here is a glimpse of what learned…
- Behavior is driven by motivation to achieve self-worth
- Motivation changes in conflict
- Personal strengths when overdone can be perceived as weakness
- Personal filter influence perceptions of self and others
This tool helps you recognize that you can and do choose your behavior based on your underlying values, while also being able to take into account what others value. Again, we can’t give you a manual to every person in your life but we can equip you to better understand what makes them tick. The journey with SDI has been both powerful and effective.
trust·ol·o·gy: the study and practice of trust
WHAT IS LOW-TRUST COSTING YOU?
Trust is a funny thing. We all have strong opinions about what it is, what it isn’t, how it is gained, and how it is lost.
Trust has never existed in a risk-free environment. No matter how well we know someone, given enough opportunities, everyone will fall short in some way or another. If that’s not a reality we’re willing to take risk in, then we’re not going to have high-trust relationships. However, there is a great price we pay when we don’t trust. With trust, our relationships flourish, our productivity rises, and we have high personal and professional satisfaction.
A trust-filled atmosphere in the workplace lets people take risks, allowing innovation and creativity to thrive. Your team’s collective sense of self-worth and purpose can become a beacon of light for others to follow. The healthy, dynamic atmosphere where high-trust lives is actually contagious, and will raise the bar for your entire organization.
If you are ready to have your assumptions on trust challenged, your sights raised, and your business or team shifted into high gear, Trustology was written for you.
High-trust is the currency of greatness.
In today’s world the term “Leader” has a few myths associated with it. Here are just a few:
- Leadership only exists at the top
- Leaders are born, not made
- Effective leaders are charismatic
Though the list goes on, these three are often the stumbling block that prevents people from leading. We often look at others in leadership and begin comparing our selves to their personality, style, and accomplishments and quickly realize we don’t fit the bill. Great leaders are not more talented than the majority of people but they do know what they want and work with all their might to see it become a reality.
It doesn’t take a certain personality, title, or even permission to begin leading. Leadership is about vision and relationships. Leaders are aware of their impact on others and seek to behave in ways that build trust, self esteem, and confidence.
Today we couldn’t be more excited to share with you our new website! We’ve been tirelessly working on this for some time now and we hope that the finished results reflect so. The new site was designed to be minimalistic with a clean, uncluttered look, which is easier to navigate and find the information you need quickly and easily.
Also, we are excited to begin posting resources on our blog that provide valuable tips, tricks, and inspiration. We are always trying to improve and want to hear back from you. So if there is ever anything you would like to see or hear, let us know.
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